It was the moment when Leonard Dicaprio got his Oscar that I realized he never won an Academy Award before—not once, not twice, not three times, but four times nominated, sat there, in front of cameras, in front of millions of audience, then watched the award go to others.
We all had those moments: we don’t always get what we want. We lose. We fail. Even when we worked hard for it.
Then after the 1st attempt, 2nd attempt, 3rd attempt, 4th attempt, we think it’s not fair, we feel humiliated, we say to ourselves “Maybe I am not good enough. Maybe it will never happen.” Then we give up. Not knowing the “Academy Award” is waiting for us at the 5th attempt.
Then there is “Leonard DiCaprio” who did the opposite, he worked harder, took more challenges, after every disappointment. Then finally, he got his “Oscar”.
The Law of Average
According to Jim Rohn, “If you do something often enough a ratio will begin to appear.”
No matter how hard we try, bad things happen, things go out of control. But if you keep trying, the “ratio” will appear.
As I was writing this post, one thing came to mind.
When I first started my career, I was clueless about what I wanted to do. Being socially awkward for a long time, I couldn’t even find people to ask for career advice. I had no better ways than cold contacting people on LinkedIn.
Imagine a stranger who has less than 20 connections on LinkedIn sends you a random message asking for advice. I was that person.
Did I enjoy it? Hell no!
It was hard enough for me to reach out to people like that, not to mention my heart wrenched every time I didn’t get a response, which was pretty much the case all the time. I forgot how many times I wanted to cry because I thought “God, I made such a fool out of myself. No one wants to talk to me. Maybe I should give up.”
But I didn’t, not because how persistent I was, but because no one responded anyway,what could be worse than that?
So I carried on. Then I got the first response, second response, eventually over a hundred responses. (By the way, thanks guys. I remember everything you shared with me. And I’ve kept the promise to help people who reach out to me.)
I sent out over 800 messages like that on LinkedIn, the first response happened after my 60th attempt.
Had I given up after the first few try, I would never know some wonderful people nor have the chance to learn their insight.
(Of course, I tested my message to increase the response ratio as well.)
“I’ve always believed that if you put in the work, the results will come.” (Michael Jordan )